Our wedding day is one of the most special day of our lives. We are at the verge of beginning a new life with our new partner for not only this life but inshAllah for the life to come. We spare nothing to make sure that this day will be a perfect and memorable one. Due to this reason we sometimes lose sense of reality and really go for the extravagance in our weddings which haunts us for months or years to come with financial burdens.
Anyone who is generally not part of the wedding if asked would rule on the same issue differently but when it comes to their own wedding day they make the same mistakes. Buying the most expensive items, looking at the weddings they attended and following the same venue styles/size, food menus, expensive wedding cakes, dresses, professional video/camera crew, entertainment, suits and more guests than anyone can handle. All of these items add up and the pressure cooker doesn’t rise until after the wedding day when all the bills are sitting on your table and you have a headache like never before in your life. Then reality kicks in and you start to realize how you could have been wise on your wedding day and invested in the future of your marriage instead.
You ask yourself why are you spending so much of your money on just one day of your life? You can put this money together and actually rent an apartment for years, put a down payment for a house (the halal way of course), buy a car or maybe two of them and the list goes on but rather you want to spend it on this one day and show the world what a big fancy fairy tale wedding you are having and how you look like a prince or princess.
You can look at your wedding in two ways, wedding day or a first day of your married life. If you look at it that way, its the first day of your married life, so you have to think in the best interest of your new family and set your family up from the first day for success as husband and wife and not sink your ship in financial debt. Like all people who get married they are in it for the long haul and no one wants to end their marriage. Have fun and enjoy yourselves but keep everything in perspective and don’t look at others to have fun at your own wedding. Don’t have a measuring stick or weddings hanging over your head but rather enjoy your wedding within your means and a preset budget. You will therefore have a more relaxed and enjoyable experience all together and you will still be a prince/princess for years to come rather than just on that day.
I will end it off by saying “Wedding is not a fairy tale but the first real day of your married life.”
- Taken from http://www.muslimmarriageadvice.com/expensive-weddings/